Females are notoriously catty. I know, it sounds harsh. But it’s a generalization for a reason.
Maybe that explains why we females constantly apologize for everything, from accidentally bumping into someone in the hall to cheating on a test.
But maybe it’s not that girls apologize too much. Maybe, guys apologize too little.
A recent study conducted by psychologists at the University of Waterloo in Canada revealed that men have a tendency to apologize less because they legitimately believe that fewer of their actions warrant atonement. Basically, women apologize more because they think that there are more things to apologize for.
So now comes the big question: will these new findings push men to apologize more?
Probably not. But, it would be an improvement if males can try to communicate more effectively with the opposite sex. Men, if your sister or girlfriend is sending harsh signals, retrace your steps and figure out where you went wrong. What may be a minor detail to you, like leaving the toilet seat up, could seem like a huge offense to them.
The lesson is simple: look at the situation and apologize, even if it doesn’t seem like you did something too bad. Just apologize and get it over with. Even in a situation where you’re absolutely clueless to your wrongdoings, apologizing will get you in the clear.
Jesus Christe' • Oct 29, 2010 at 7:47 am
This article is silly.
Whaaattt??? • Oct 10, 2010 at 6:52 pm
1. “Even in a situation where you’re absolutely clueless to your wrongdoings, apologizing will get you in the clear.”
Why should boys, or girls for that matter, apologize if they have no idea what they did wrong? Apologies are only meaningful if the person apologizing understands where they went wrong. Merely apologizing to “get you in the clear” is shallow and certainly won’t heal a situation.
2. “What may be a minor detail to you, like leaving the toilet seat up, could seem like a huge offense to them.”
This example does NOT solidify your point in any way. Out of the millions of examples of “details” you could have chosen, you chose leaving a toilet seat up? Hmmm…
David Elfin • Oct 8, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Molly my dear,
It’s fewer of their actions, not less.
Sorry 🙂
David Elfin